We are all creatures of habit. We like to put our pants on starting with the same leg every day. We park our car on the same side of the garage, and we stop at the same place for coffee every morning. Sometimes, we may think about trying something different, but when the time comes, sticking to what makes us the most comfortable just seems… well… comfortable. And we may think that there will come a time that we will do something out of the ordinary. Someday, that is.
A while back, someone invited me kayaking. I declined. Not because it wouldn’t be fun. It would have been, especially with the group that asked me. I’m not sure if it was because I didn’t have the proper gear or that I felt a little “clumsy” thinking I’d fall right out of the kayak. Whatever the reason, I felt more comfortable saying “I don’t think so”. If I really think about every invitation extended to me that I turned down, I would have a long list of missed experiences. Some I may have thoroughly enjoyed.
Often, a friend will tell me of something different they tried; a new restaurant, somewhere they have gone on vacation or something they do for fun. One of my classic responses to them is “Someday I’ll have to try that”. I, for one, have a long road ahead of me in conquering the ugly head of procrastination. So, writing this is as much therapy for me as it may be giving you possible food for thought.
When you succumb to complacency in your everyday life, you tend to live like you were on autopilot. In a way, it’s like the 1993 movie, Groundhog Day. Each day feels like a repeat of the previous day and you can’t seem to break out of the ordinary. Eventually, you start living your life for “Someday” when you will try something new.
There’s no time like the present.
I heard that many times growing up. I like to say I live by it, but that wouldn’t be entirely true. I like to get some things done immediately, like grocery shopping, cleaning or paying the bills. I feel like once those things are “out of the way”, I can concentrate on what brings me joy. The problem is, there never seems to be enough time left after I’m finished those necessary tasks in life to have fun.
Each day I get older I come to terms with the time I have left. I may live to be 75 or 100 but the time between now and then will fly by. When I was 10 or 12-years old, time seemed to stand still. Now, the clock moves at breakneck pace. Parents can attest to that when it seems like one day their child is barely sitting up, and the next they are walking down the aisle to accept their high school diploma. There are a lot of “somedays” in between there. Best to fill them with “somethings”.
We only have so much time on this earth. What if that someday never comes?
Some work hard and long in their younger years saving for when retirement comes, figuring there’s always time. However, there’s no guarantee when you reach that age you will have the good health or the means to do the things you have been putting off. We always seem to think our time on this earth is infinite. We know better, but we do a great job convincing ourselves otherwise.
Swiss-American psychiatrist and pioneer in near-death studies, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross said, “It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth – and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up – that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.”
Many times, I’ve heard the phrase “On a rainy day, we should….”. Rainy days come and go and a lot of things that were planned for those days, or at least thought about, were never accomplished.
My wish for you is that you don’t waste any more time putting things off “for a rainy day”. This life of yours is precious as are the lives of your children, grandchildren and parents. Take the long-awaited vacation, buy the dream car, spend quality time with your loved ones… do whatever brings you the greatest joy. Because while you are waiting on someday, you are robbed of what you can experience today.
For many years, I put off writing. I focused on other things in life and told myself there’s always time for that. Why did I wait? Was it a fear of not succeeding or was it the “Someday” mentality? After all, if I had a good mind and able physically, I still had time. There was no age limit. What I realize now is all those years that I didn’t focus on writing I missed out on the joy that it would have brought me. I had to muster up the courage to put my words in print and take that first step to begin living my dream.
I hope that you are either enlightened or entertained by my musings…. this joy I now experience by turning “SOMEdays” into TOdays.
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